As I write this, I am close to my final weeks as a thirty-something. In a few months, I turn 40, and part of me wants to complain about getting old. But when I looked back at the last ten years of my life, I realized how far I’ve come—it was shocking. It is somewhat absurd for me to think that entering a new decade and turning 40 is a bad thing. I should be down on my knees, thanking God for giving me 40 years on this earth.
As the decade draws to a close, reflecting a bit on the last decade is challenging, yet quite entertaining. Sometimes, I feel that I’m moving forward at a snail’s pace in life. Other times life itself feels like it’s zipping by in fast forward.
Anyway, let’s reflect.
When I turned 25, I had a plan. Nothing turned out as I had planned. I should be a world traveler, happily married, a mother of three kids, and a lady boss. Of course, at that age, life looked a lot different, and things didn’t go according to schedule.
Fast-forward 15 years, I am not rich. I am not famous. I am not tall and skinny or anywhere close. However, I got two master’s degrees in entirely different areas. I moved cities eight times, packed up everything, and left. I relocated to Charlotte for a new job. I lost that job (and felt like the world has ended.) I became an auntie to my beautiful nieces Sara and Yasmeen—seeing my sister become a mother has been so lovely to watch, even from a distance.
Taking a huge step back, I see the ups and downs of my life with a new perspective. My circumstances have changed notably in recent years. There have been times where I truly experienced great disappointment, stress, anxiety… yet, I find myself on the other side. I’m beyond blessed to still be in good health and surrounded by a fantastic family. However, my clinical career took a sharp turn away from the lab soon after losing my job and led me to a wildly irreverent field and hopefully, to a job I’ll love. There are many things about myself and my life that I’ll gratefully take forward with me into the coming decade.
I look forward to happily embrace the handful of people who love and accept me for who I am, including my family. I will also continue to cherish my new life turn.
I look forward to embarking upon a new decade.